July 6, 2020

Dear Hope Nation,

There’s no accounting for taste. Once every week or so, I devote this letter to quotations on various subjects. Some of you absolutely love the respite from news about Hope or thoughts on recovery. I’ve gotten many emails and seen some Facebook posts filled with gushery over these letters. On the other hand, I’ve also gotten messages telling me the writer immediately discards the letters with quotes, only reading those that are directly from Hope, with no intermediating voices. To the first group, I say, “Here you go!” To the second, “Tomorrow is another day.”

“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.”
– Shannon Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It’s Too Late

“Never hold resentments for the person who tells you what you need to hear; count them among your truest, most caring, and valuable friends.”
– Mike Norton, Just Another War Story

“Time doesn’t heal all wounds, only distance can lessen the sting of them.”
– Shannon Alder

“Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.”
– Tina Fey, Bossypants

“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.”
– Rita Mae Brown

“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.”
– C. JoyBell C.

“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.”
– Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.”
– Shannon L. Alder

“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too. ”
– Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty

“how you love yourself is
how you teach others
to love you”
– Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”
– Charles Bukowski

“Don’t worry if people think you’re crazy. You are crazy. You have that kind of intoxicating insanity that lets other people dream outside of the lines and become who they’re destined to be.”
– Jennifer Elisabeth, Born Ready: Unleash Your Inner Dream Girl

“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.”
– Oscar Wilde

“I say let the world go to hell, but I should always have my tea.”
– Fyodor Dostoevsky, Notes from Underground

“To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.”
– Albert Camus

“The world says: “You have needs — satisfy them. You have as much right as the rich and the mighty. Don’t hesitate to satisfy your needs; indeed, expand your needs and demand more.” This is the worldly doctrine of today. And they believe that this is freedom. The result for the rich is isolation and suicide, for the poor, envy and murder.”
– Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

“I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.”
– Audrey Hepburn

“Sometimes crying or laughing are the only options left, and laughing feels better right now.”
– Veronica Roth, Divergent

“There is nothing in the world so irresistibly contagious as laughter and good humor.”
– Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol

“If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they’ll kill you.”
– George Bernard Shaw

“If we couldn’t laugh we would all go insane.”
Robert Frost

“Laughter is wine for the soul – laughter soft, or loud and deep, tinged through with seriousness – the hilarious declaration made by man that life is worth living.”
– Sean O’Casey

“The earth laughs in flowers.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“I know not all that may be coming, but be it what it will, I’ll go to it laughing.”
Herman Melville, Moby-Dick or, the Whale

“He was born with a gift of laughter and a sense that the world was mad.”
Rafael Sabatini, Scaramouche

“If only she could be so oblivious again, to feel such love without knowing it, mistaking it for laughter. ”
– Markus Zusak, The Book Thief

“When someone is crying, of course, the noble thing to do is to comfort them. But if someone is trying to hide their tears, it may also be noble to pretend you do not notice them.”
Lemony Snicket, Horseradish

“But a mermaid has no tears, and therefore she suffers so much more.”
– Hans Christian Andersen, The Little Mermaid

“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.”
– José N. Harris, MI VIDA: A Story of Faith, Hope and Love

“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
Steve Maraboli

“Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before–more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle.”
Charles Dickens, Great Expectations

“Don’t cry over someone who wouldn’t cry over you.”
– Lauren Conrad

“Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning do to do afterward.”
– Kurt Vonnegut

Tomorrow, back to original writing!

You matter. I matter. We matter.


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